TOP 5 seemingly generous statements that actually reveal the "rock bottom" EQ of mothers-to-be with daughters-in-law

Here are some seemingly affectionate and friendly phrases that are actually causing relationships to break down.

“What would a boyfriend’s mother with low EQ (emotional intelligence) be like?” - a topic being shared on social networks that has received a lot of attention from netizens. According to the experience shared by many girls, right from the first time meeting their boyfriend’s family, if they receive these 5 questions and advice, they should “break up early” to avoid suffering. Staying away is also a way to protect yourself.

You're so lucky to have met my daughter. She's so well-behaved; she gives all her earnings to her mother to keep.

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A saying that many mothers often use to praise their sons and gain points in the eyes of their girlfriends (possibly future daughters-in-law) is actually “counterproductive”. The article “Only mothers-in-law with low emotional intelligence do these 3 things” clearly shows that women with low EQ often like to show off, even flatter their sons and daughters. Moreover, this also implies that parents rate you one level lower (or more) than their sons.

“It’s not wrong that he’s a good guy. Better than you, the better. But if your mother-in-law says that, it means she doesn’t appreciate you,” a netizen shared. In this case, instead of praising her son, the mother-in-law should give priority to her girlfriend. This makes the girl feel more respected and loved instead of constantly praising her son.

Furthermore, a girl will have certain reservations and anxieties if she intends to take her relationship further with a boy who is overly controlled by his mother, especially regarding his salary.

She and her daughter-in-law do all the housework; the father and son don't have to lift a finger.

An An said she broke up with her boyfriend of a year after coming to her house to meet her parents. She said her boyfriend's mother was very kind. She also cared about her, so she ate well and told her son not to bully her. Until mealtime. She observed that the men in the house were all sitting on the sofa watching movies or chatting, and only came out when her mother and pregnant sister-in-law invited them to eat. At first, she thought it was because she was busy entertaining guests, but during mealtime, her boyfriend's mother's words immediately disillusioned her: "You and your daughter-in-law do all the housework, your father and son don't have to do anything."

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She immediately thought about what her future would be like if she married into this family. She saw herself doing all the housework, and her boyfriend took it for granted. He didn't care or have any intention of helping. She suddenly remembered that during the whole year of their relationship, he had never cooked, or even served her food.

After she shared this story on social media, many people supported her decision. They argued that marriage is a lifelong commitment, and one should choose someone who can be a supportive partner.

Your makeup is a bit too heavy, and that dress must be very expensive.

This statement expresses concern in a somewhat negative, even nitpicky, way. Therefore, many topics on social media frequently ask: "Should I wear heavy makeup or what kind of outfit should I wear when meeting my boyfriend's family for the first time?" These questions attract a lot of attention.

However, according to QQ, it is understandable that older people often like girls to wear light makeup and dress modestly. However, these "subtle reminders" about appearance more or less make the other person feel uncomfortable, even uncomfortable. "Anyway, helping the children feel comfortable when meeting the new family is the right thing to do. It is not a good thing to show that you don't like them yet, right in front of their eyes. It shows that you have a low EQ ," a netizen shared.

The doctor sincerely advised that women should prioritize their families.

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A woman who has been married for 1 year once shared the top sayings of parents in the first meeting that you should consider: "I sincerely advise, women should focus on their family." Accordingly, she said that right from the first meeting, her boyfriend's mother advised her to stay home after marriage and focus on taking care of the children. Initially, seeing that her boyfriend's family was well-off, her mother-in-law was understanding, so she agreed to settle down. However, after less than 1 year of marriage, she regretted it. Because her mother-in-law was too controlling and controlling of her spending. Moreover, she was always considered a freeloader in the house.

What do you do for a living, how much is your monthly salary, do you have any savings...?

It is not uncommon for a lover to receive questions about salary, savings, and job position from his mother, aunt, or uncle when he first comes home. Many parents often think that these questions show concern, but this has the opposite effect.

Many girls say they feel uncomfortable. Some even don't want to answer these questions because they are too private. Even close friends, or even parents or siblings, are reluctant to answer.

Tran Ha

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