5 things about children that wise parents will never reveal to outsiders

Social Studies - When parents sit together, discussing issues related to their children is inevitable. But there are certain issues concerning their children that parents shouldn't reveal to others.

1. Mention embarrassing things about your children.

There was a mother whose son was in the 5th grade. One day, she was looking through old photos and saw that her son had wet the bed when he was a child.

Initially, family members only knew about these private photos.

Unexpectedly, during the parent-teacher meeting, this mother chatted with other parents and comfortably shared photos of her son wetting the bed when he was a child.

Then, this embarrassing image somehow spread throughout the class, and the boy was teased by his classmates to the point that he didn't want to go to school anymore.

What's frustrating is that even though her child intended to drop out of school, the mother still felt she hadn't done anything wrong, only felt happy about it, and didn't think it was that serious.

In fact, this mother's way of thinking is very common in many families.

They thought their children were too young to understand anything, so they casually recounted their children's embarrassing stories to others.

However, children, like adults, also experience feelings of shame and self-esteem.

Therefore, in this matter, parents must change their mindset, treat their children like adults, respect and understand them, and not publicly share embarrassing things about their children.

Many parents think their children are too young to understand anything, and casually share embarrassing stories about their children with others. (Illustrative image)

2. Show off your children's excellence.

Many parents enjoy sharing their children's achievements. For them, it's not just a source of pride, but also a way to motivate their children to strive even harder.

However, instead of providing encouragement, this action could even have a negative impact on the child.

The more outstanding your children are, the less you should show them off to others.

Many parents choose to share their children's achievements on social media immediately, proudly showing off their proud children everywhere.

They don't realize that showing off their child's achievements is inadvertently placing an overwhelming responsibility on their child's shoulders, forcing them to constantly strain themselves.

Furthermore, boasting about your child's academic achievements can cause others, including your child's friends, to have a negative and unfavorable impression of your child.

Peers may react strongly because they don't like it when someone is better than them, which is one of the causes of bullying and violence in schools.

As parents, don't let your child's excellence be something you constantly boast about. After all, this life is your own; there's no need to show it off to everyone.

Instead, gently encourage your child so they understand that their efforts are always appreciated by their parents.

That's the best way to boost their morale while ensuring their safety.

3. Children's money

Many parents like to show off their children's income to relatives and friends.

Behind this kind of superficial showing off is often a desire for recognition and praise from others.

But face-to-face, people might express admiration and praise, while behind their backs they might be envious or critical due to their boastful nature.

Ultimately, no matter how close the relationship, showing off one's children's money and assets is inappropriate because it can lead to undesirable consequences, such as gossip behind their backs or attracting others to borrow money.

For truly intelligent parents, having promising and capable children is a blessing, not something to brag about to others.

On the other hand, those who talk about how much money their children earn are mostly unclear about the purpose of their comments and indirectly cause trouble for their children.

4. Don't mention your child's plans and dreams.

A mother in China took to the internet to ask netizens for their opinion on whether she should only tell relatives about her daughter's plans to pursue a master's degree.

She couldn't understand why her child reacted so strongly and angrily when relatives asked about her future plans.

Actually, the reason is very simple: if we put ourselves in the girl's shoes, we can understand what she is going through.

Studying for the master's degree was very stressful, and she never expected her mother to tell the relatives about it.

As a result, within two days, almost all her relatives at home knew about it. Relatives called her one after another, some asking about her well-being, others offering advice.

During that time, she was busy with all sorts of things, including dealing with questions and calls from relatives.

Sometimes, an "unintentional comment" from parents in front of others can put immense pressure on their children.

In fact, when parents tell others what their children are doing, it puts a lot of pressure on the children, because many things may not be successful if they rely solely on hard work.

What parents should do is not tell others about their children's plans; it's best to keep things private, and only announce success when it's achieved.

In fact, when parents tell others what their children are doing, it puts a lot of pressure on the children. (Illustrative image)

5. Relationships between children

When your child reaches a certain age, they begin to think about marriage, a major event in their life.

Falling in love is one thing, but it takes a long journey for both of you to reach the point of marriage.

Many parents often brag about their children's relationships. If their child's partner is well-off, they will show them off to everyone.

This could cause unnecessary trouble for their children's romantic relationships.

Children will also lose their freedom in love and relationships because they receive so much attention, expectations, and judgment from everyone.

Whether their children are in love or already married, parents should not reveal too much about their daughters' private romantic lives; this shows respect for their children and foresight on the part of the parents.

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