Social Studies - Every mother wants to shower her children with love. However, in reality, some parenting methods can cause lifelong psychological problems for children.
"What's wrong, son? Why aren't you listening to your mother?"
"Mom, can I play with my friend for a while?" "No."
"I haven't finished my homework yet. How embarrassing!"
Hien Hien's mother is very strong-willed, not only strict with her daughter but also with her husband.
Therefore, Hien Hien's father rarely argued with her mother. It seemed they never argued; her father did whatever her mother wanted.
When Hien Hien was little, due to her curiosity, she often wanted to find an unconventional answer, but her mother always restrained her, saying , "You're not allowed to have an answer like that, you're not allowed to do that."
Perhaps the mother had a leadership habit, always wanting others to obey her, and applied that mindset to raising her children.
Now, whenever Hien Hien comes home, she quietly does her homework and obeys all of her mother's instructions.
The little girl seems to have inherited her father's perfectionist attitude towards her mother, so now they rarely argue.
When parents control their children excessively, they can cause unintended harm to them. (Illustrative image)
A psychologist recounted: He once counseled a young man from a well -off family . He had been in love repeatedly, each time intensely at first, but after a long time, he felt his partner was too domineering and put too much pressure on him, ultimately choosing to break up.
Analyzing the reasons from his background, the psychologist found that the young man's mother was also very strong-willed, making many decisions to help her son, even if he didn't like them.
During his formative years, the young man became accustomed to dependence. When he fell in love, he was both captivated by this kind of "love" and longed to escape being controlled.
Ultimately, he struggled between two conflicting emotional states, with neither relationship reaching a conclusion.
Mothers like these will meticulously care for their children's lives and believe that as long as their children are materially satisfied, that's enough.
They don't listen to or care about their children's real needs; they just want to arrange everything in the hope that their children will grow up and develop according to their expectations.
Children in this family will work very hard to meet their mother's expectations, hoping to receive her attention and appreciation. But they also often experience fear, anxiety, and dissatisfaction with family life.
When children receive unwanted support, they may feel inferior to their peers and lack self-confidence.
Psychologist Wendy Mogel, author of books on parenting, says that growing up in a controlling and overly protective environment will cause children to struggle and fail in life.
When children are overly controlled and imposed upon by their parents, they easily lose self-confidence in life. They don't feel empathy, become disappointed by their parents' lack of trust, and may become withdrawn, limiting their sharing and communication. Improving such a relationship can be very difficult.
In particular, these children lack decisiveness and the courage to challenge themselves when faced with life's opportunities.
Experts believe that over-controlling children can make them fearful of everything and hinder their ability to learn soft skills. (Illustrative image)
Over-control can lead to children developing dependence, gradually losing their ability to make decisions, solve problems, or take responsibility for their own actions.
The most negative impact of over-controlling children is psychological damage, leading to anxiety and depression.
Moreover, excessive control can easily influence a child's thinking, creating unhealthy habits and a distorted lifestyle as they grow up.
Excessive control also prevents children from experiencing life and gaining practical knowledge.
Therefore, no matter how decisive and strong you are, when you are with your child, be gentler. Don't let your child feel that you are distant or cold, because simply put, your child is not your employee.
When the mother is too strong, leading to the father being weak, the father's image loses its strength and courage, failing to create a strong role model for the child to look up to and emulate.
A good mother will illuminate her child's path in life, helping them to understand themselves, the world , and all living things with eyes full of love and compassion...
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