"No gifts asked after a breakup," so going to your ex's wedding is fun!

Whether or not to attend an ex's wedding depends on each person's perspective - Illustration: CONG TRIEU

In fact, many people still choose to attend their ex-lover's wedding and wish them well, which is perfectly normal.

Attending a wedding, wishing my ex-girlfriend happiness as she gets married.

Lately, I've heard my friends talking about how Ngân Hạnh went to Tùng's wedding, a colleague from the same company. The story is that Tùng used to be Hạnh's boyfriend. After they broke up, Tùng got a new girlfriend.

About two years later, Tung gave Hanh a wedding invitation. Hanh received the invitation, feeling a little conflicted about whether or not she should attend her ex-boyfriend's wedding. She consulted her group of friends and ultimately received two opposing opinions: some said she should go, while others said she shouldn't.

Hanh decided to attend Tung's wedding just like she would attend any other colleague's wedding. "We broke up because we had incompatible viewpoints. After that, we considered each other friends and colleagues."

"I went to the wedding not out of curiosity to see who my ex-boyfriend's wife was, but simply to wish my colleague and, after all, former lover with whom I once shared both good and bad times," Hạnh expressed.

Many people believe that if a breakup doesn't involve asking for gifts back and the relationship remains as a friend or colleague, attending an ex's wedding is perfectly normal and not a problem.

"Attending an ex's wedding isn't about proving that I'm okay without them. We still see each other at work every day. Choosing to end our relationship means we're going our separate ways, living our own lives. So what's there to be hesitant about when attending an ex's wedding?"

"I think if a breakup causes both parties to hurt each other too much, no one would invite each other to their wedding, let alone attend the other's wedding," Hạnh stated.

I came to congratulate my ex-girlfriend on her marriage.

Having fallen in love during their student years, and after graduating and working for about a year, Hung and Phuong ended their relationship of approximately four years. Although both of them sometimes looked back hoping to rekindle their romantic student romance, they both felt it was forced and accepted going their separate ways.

However, even though they were no longer a couple, they remained part of the same group of friends from their college days, so they occasionally got together for coffee or went on road trips. Then, both Hung and Phuong found new partners.

Hung had already broken up with his second girlfriend, so when he received Phuong's wedding invitation, he didn't hesitate at all. He and his friends went to his ex-girlfriend's wedding as usual, happily. Hung shared that he went to the wedding to wish his former lover well.

"People say that breaking up is the end, and you shouldn't let old flames reappear and cause trouble for both of you. But I think there are many reasons for breaking up. If you still maintain a good friendship, then just go to the wedding to wish each other well; there's nothing to worry about or overthink," Hung said.

We once considered each other a part of each other's lives, but when we break up, in the end, the person who moves on with us is someone else. If you're invited to your ex's wedding, you should still go and wish them well.

Source: https://tuoitre.vn/chia-tay-khong-doi-qua-thi-di-dam-cuoi-nguoi-yeu-cu-vui-ma-20240520165900805.htm