I suffer from insomnia due to my wife's snoring, and I want to sleep separately, but I'm afraid it will ruin our marriage.

My wife snores too loudly, and I simply wanted to get enough sleep so I wouldn't be so exhausted, so I suggested sleeping in separate rooms; she disagreed, saying that if we slept separately, our family would fall apart.

My wife and I have been married for almost 5 years. Including our courtship during our student years, we've been together for a full 10 years. Over such a long period, we understand each other's habits and personalities. After having a lovely baby boy three years ago, our family became even more complete, and I felt truly fulfilled. However, in recent months, I've become increasingly annoyed by a new bad habit my wife has developed: she snores very loudly at night.

My wife and I used to sleep together very peacefully. When she was pregnant and after giving birth, she snored a little, but not too loudly, and it stopped after a while. However, recently, perhaps due to weight gain or some other reason I'm not sure of, she's started snoring again, and the sound is getting louder.

I don't mean to criticize or discriminate against my wife, as this is an objective issue that no one wants. The problem is that I'm a very light sleeper. Even the slightest sound or light entering the room at night is enough to wake me up. Knowing my nature, my wife has always been very careful and quiet at night. She started having our son sleep separately early on, both to foster independence and to avoid disturbing his father's sleep.

But my wife can't control her snoring. Lying next to her, I suffer from sleep deprivation every night. Just as I'm drifting off to sleep, the snoring suddenly intensifies from beside me, waking me up repeatedly throughout the night. Working hard and feeling exhausted all day, then not getting enough sleep and rest at night, I become sluggish, lacking energy, and my work performance suffers.

Over the past three months, I've lost about 3kg and always come to work looking exhausted, leading many colleagues to think something was wrong at home.

My wife's snoring prevented me from getting a full night's sleep for three months. (Illustrative image: Adobe)

Feeling embarrassed, I finally told my wife that I wanted her to see a doctor to find a solution. At first, she didn't believe me, but after hearing the sounds in the video I recorded, she realized her bad habit. She went to a nearby clinic for advice and tried many things like sleeping on her side, drinking warm water before bed, using anti-snoring sprays... but the situation didn't improve much. The main problem is that I'm a very light sleeper; even with earplugs, I still wake up many times during the night.

To stay healthy and work, I asked my wife if I could sleep with our son. After about a week, she became angry and irritable, demanding that I return to our room. She said that after years of sharing a bed, she couldn't sleep if we no longer slept together. She seemed very hurt, saying that I was tired of her because she had gained weight after giving birth and was trying to distance myself, and that her snoring was a consequence of pregnancy and childbirth.

I felt really guilty when my wife said that everyone gets tired and snores loudly sometimes, and that she puts up with my snoring, so why was I being so selfish and abandoning the woman who bore my children? She said that sleeping together is what makes married life meaningful, and that if young couples sleep separately, sooner or later they'll just end up sharing a house, and the family will fall apart.

Seeing the dark circles under my wife's eyes from not being able to sleep without me beside her, and not wanting to cause family discord, I returned to the shared room, but deep down I knew that from then on I would have to endure exhaustion from lack of sleep.

How can I convince my wife not to be so insistent on sleeping separately? The truth is, we still love each other, I'm not tired of her at all, I simply want some peace and quiet to get enough sleep. Many couples sleep separately and are still happy.

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