Many students are "preventing" parents from showing off their children's grades on social media.
As usual, at the end of the school year, social media is abuzz with the trend of showing off children's grades, certificates, and achievements. With the announcement of 10th-grade exam results and the cutoff scores for specialized and integrated programs in Ho Chi Minh City, this trend is heating up again. However, this year there's a new phenomenon: groups on Zalo and Facebook are "preventing" parents from showing off their children's grades online. Could this mean that students are now more aware of their individual rights and privacy?
What do students say about parents who like to "show off grades" or "worship on Facebook"?
Nguyen Thi Hoai Ni, a student in class 11A13 at Tran Van Giau High School, Binh Thanh District, Ho Chi Minh City, said that in some cases, parents showing off their children's report cards can lead other parents to put pressure on their children, further increasing peer pressure on students.
"Many people think that peer pressure comes from boasting about achievements on social media, but in reality, putting pressure on children is a choice each parent makes. Instead of comforting, encouraging, supporting, and understanding their children, they choose to do the opposite: they pressure and force their children into a mold, into a role model that they consider good or beneficial, without knowing or caring about their children's feelings," Hoai Ni said.
Hoài Ni shared that she herself had once been a victim of peer pressure. Fortunately, her parents simply listened silently to others boasting about other people's children, without ever scolding or belittling her. This gave her extra motivation to strive harder. "I tried my best to achieve high grades and a good report card so that my parents could be proud of me. This wasn't so that my parents could show off my grades online, but because I wanted to make them happy," Hoài Ni confided.
Every exam season, it's time to show off our kids on social media.
This is a positive sign, indicating that students are becoming more aware of their rights.
Lawyer Le Trung Phat, Director of Le Trung Phat Law Firm, Ho Chi Minh City Bar Association, said that for a long time, many parents have been showing off their children's grades and achievements on social media and consider it normal to gain pride from the online community. However, parents are forgetting that this affects the rights and privacy of their children, causing harm to other students and families.
"Now that middle and high school students are aware of this, they want their parents to not interfere too much with their grades, and to 'prevent' parents from showing off their children's grades online. This is a good understanding. It shows that they have been educated in school and positively influenced by advanced cultures and education systems around the world," said lawyer Le Trung Phat.
However, according to lawyer Phat, students speaking out by forming groups on social media to "prevent" or "forbid" parents from showing off their grades is inappropriate, because the people they want to speak to are their parents. Will their opinions reach their parents if they form such groups?
At the same time, according to lawyer Phat, online social media groups often have topics that are somewhat irrelevant and not necessarily entirely positive. Therefore, students can absolutely express their opinions frankly to their parents.
"The most important thing to regulate such behavior is direct interaction between those in need and those whose actions are perceived to affect their rights. Children have the right to express their opinions to their parents, and parents have the responsibility to listen, share, understand, and respect their children's rights. It may be difficult for children to open up to their parents because they are in a child's position, but we encourage them to share directly and frankly with their parents in real life. Besides confiding in them verbally, children can share with their parents through letters or text messages, for example," said Le Trung Phat, Director of the law firm, Ho Chi Minh City Bar Association.
High school seniors face even more pressure from parents showing off their children's grades on social media.
Potential consequences of showing off grades
Mr. Le Van Nam, a teacher at Tran Van Giau High School in Binh Thanh District, Ho Chi Minh City, and co-author of the book "Stories of Cats" about peer pressure among students – which won second prize at the national level in the 5th "Students and Young Entrepreneurs with Startup Ideas" competition – stated that as society progresses and technology becomes more powerful, parents showing off their children's grades should be considered a serious issue that needs to be thoroughly addressed.
Firstly, parents showing off exam scores on social media creates envy and psychological pressure on students who don't achieve high results. By publicly displaying scores, students are put in a position of comparison and feel insecure about their abilities. Showing off scores on social media leads to comparisons and evaluations of each student's individual value based solely on their scores. This creates unhealthy competition and results in students' abilities being compared only through their grades.
Secondly, showing off exam scores on social media infringes on students' privacy. This trend hinders the educational process and misleads students. Instead of focusing on skill development, exploring interests, and personal growth, students may be drawn into a race for high scores and become solely focused on exam results. This puts immense pressure on them, failing to ensure that the learning process is a useful and enjoyable experience.
"Furthermore, showing off grades can foster arrogance and conceit, promoting pride and a focus on personal achievement. This diminishes the value of humility, modesty, and compassion in society. Students may be looked down upon or underestimated by others when they look at their grades, rather than based on their individual qualities and abilities."
"More seriously, when parents show off their children's grades online, personal information such as scores can be misused or exploited by unscrupulous individuals or organizations, leading to negative impacts on the students themselves and causing unnecessary problems," Master's degree holder Le Van Nam told a reporter from Thanh Nien Newspaper.
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