Don't put anyone in an awkward position when inviting them to a wedding.

A cozy wedding with close guests is what many young people aim for, but many relationships make the bride and groom hesitate - Illustration: DOAN NHAN

Then accidentally hear "if not too close, why invite" or turn your wedding party into a "diluted" party that the host himself does not want.

Lie will treat to party to get over it

Reading articles on Tuoi Tre Online about the topic of wedding invitations, I realized that in many relationships, the person inviting the wedding or the person invited but not happy both have their own suffering.

I have a friend who works as an event host. It is a freelance job and involves a lot of social networking. Before the wedding, my friend was in a mess because she had to make a guest list, but then felt embarrassed sending invitations to many partners and friends who were not close. Everyone told her to invite them to the wedding. But how many of those words were sincere?

She crossed out all the relationships that were not close. The wedding was held in a cozy atmosphere in the countryside with close guests.

But then after the wedding, she received countless criticisms. In a moment of desperation, she lied and said, "We'll have a party later." And there was no after that.

Then some people were really angry, some were happy to get rid of the invitation. But it also somewhat disturbed her emotions and work for a while.

The way I apply it keeps me and my acquaintances from falling into an awkward situation - Illustration: DOAN NHAN

A sincere announcement instead of a wedding invitation

My husband and I have lived in the same city for more than ten years. But we still decided to have a small wedding in the countryside, without announcing the news or holding a party in the city. Roughly, the party would have dozens of tables of my husband's customers and partners, my colleagues and both of our friends.

From her experience, my friend taught me a method that, when applied, was praised by many people: How to not invite people to weddings who are not close enough without offending them.

Following my friend’s advice, I decided to divide the guests into two groups. One was close, definitely invited, and the other was undecided. Most of the undecided group were not-so-close college friends, acquaintances, partners, customers…

A wedding with close guests is what everyone wants, but if not careful, it can offend people who are not close - Illustration: DOAN NHAN

Instead of sending invitations that would force them to send money, the couple made coffee dates or called or texted to announce the good news and asked permission not to invite them to the wedding.

The content is as simple as: "I'm going to have a wedding in my hometown soon. It will probably be difficult for you to come to attend because it's too far away, so I'm hesitant to send you an invitation. I really like you and want to let you know so you can congratulate me. I'll introduce my husband/wife to you soon."

Many people were happy and sincerely congratulated me when they received the news. Some even sought out my close colleagues to… send them money. But the important thing is that after the wedding, the relationship between both sides was good. Some people praised my way of doing things, not putting others in an awkward position. Some people arranged to meet for coffee and gave a small gift to my husband and I after the wedding.

Thank you message for wedding gift money

My husband told me something and we did it, and received a lot of sympathy from everyone after the wedding. For those who did not attend but sent money, we sent them thank-you messages. "I have received your wedding gift, my husband and I would like to thank you very much!". A simple message but it will warm the hearts of those who could not attend our wedding.

Source: https://tuoitre.vn/dung-bien-ai-vao-the-kho-xu-khi-moi-cuoi-20240522142343632.htm