I was "made to pay" after getting too drunk and being intimate with an older colleague.

All this week, I have been having a headache over something that is a bit... foolish. Every year in the summer, my office always organizes a beach vacation. This year is of course no exception.

After a year of hard work and pressure, trips like this are always a time for us to let loose and have fun. My colleagues, especially the young, single ones my age, love to party hard and drink to their hearts’ content.

When we are drunk, anything can happen. Unfortunately, Lam and I bumped into each other. Lam is my colleague of the same rank but works in a different department. He is 34 years old, 8 years older than me.

In general, I don't remember exactly how everything happened. I only know that when I woke up this morning, we were lying in bed together... naked.

Needless to say, I was shocked and scared, and the man's side reacted similarly. He kept holding his head and apologizing to me. I didn't know how to respond, I was so embarrassed and ashamed that I didn't know where to hide my face.

The incident that day made me miserable later on (Illustration: Sohu).

After calming down a bit, we agreed to keep this a secret and not tell anyone, to avoid causing trouble and gossip in the office. Even though we were both single, this was still not a good thing.

Before Mr. Lam could say anything else, I immediately "intervened". I said that this was an unexpected incident. We both drank too much and crossed the line. I would handle it myself, to avoid any future consequences. And he did not need to worry or take responsibility, that was unnecessary because we were both adults.

After that trip, I hastily bought and took emergency contraceptive pills. Occasionally meeting at the company, Lam and I were quite awkward but tried to ignore it, pretending that there had never been any incident between us.

I thought everything was going smoothly. Suddenly, Mr. Lam asked to meet me privately. While I was quite confused about what was wrong with him, he suddenly declared: "Let's stop, pretending like nothing is wrong is not good."

Then he kept talking for a while, he suggested that I don't need to take birth control pills or anything like that, he wouldn't take any risks. He thought this was all fate, we were both single so he wanted us to try to get to know each other and go a little further.

When he saw that I disagreed, Mr. Lam immediately changed his attitude, no longer as gentle and soft as before. He thought that in the incident on the vacation, we were all at fault, and it was not always only men who needed to apologize. I may not need him to take responsibility for me, but... he did.

He confirmed that he was a very traditional person. Since that day, he could not stop thinking about me and that night. He realized that this could not be normal. The gist of it was that he held me responsible, that we should date and maybe get married.

Hearing what Mr. Lam said, I was really shocked. What era is this, how old are you that you still have such old-fashioned thinking? No matter what, in this kind of matter, the woman is always at a disadvantage. I did not blame or ask for anything, so why did you "pay" for me?

So what if a lot of people have one night stands? This was unfortunately a drunken accident. We didn’t do anything wrong or cheat anyone. Why do we have to tie our lives together because of this, it’s ridiculous. Not to mention, he’s a man, 8 years older than me.

I said "nothing but Mr. Lam didn't seem to understand, continuously giving opinions that were contrary to mine. He insisted on... justice.

This guy really has a problem. Suddenly I thought: Maybe this is not an accident, but he actively "trapped" me and asked me to take responsibility? That's what I thought, but I can't remember anything about that day.

For a week now, Mr. Lam has been texting and calling me constantly, demanding my response. At work, I have to find ways to avoid him, and his attitude is so unnatural that some of my colleagues have started to notice. Some people even tease us, which makes me very annoyed.

I don't love Lam, I don't want to marry him like this. This is so stupid! But he is so persistent, he doesn't understand what I'm saying, what should I do?

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